Without a doubt, the first step is to be empathetic with them. This is a fundamental aspect when it comes to understanding how young people are struggling with lack of control, uncertainty, the unexpected, the ambiguity between the education received and what they can do now. Faced with a pandemic that prevents almost everything, being “feeling adults” allows us to tune in to them and better understand what they need to move forward at this time. It allows us to inspire and guide them to put whatever means they have at their fingertips to move forward. Mainly because they have to resume their lives. They urgently need to overcome the impact of having added to their own emotional turbulence, characteristic of age, living in an environment of resulting family stress, with disproportionate experiences due to COVID-19: parents who have been left without work, lack of food in some cases, loss of a loved one, fear for one’s own life, fear for loved ones… To the danger of survival must be added the effects of virtual education, not seeing friends, as well as feeling isolated and disconnected.
Survival mode is over
Undoubtedly “waiting passively” for everything to pass, is a defense mechanism, staying still in the face of danger … So is “fleeing forward”, risking not respecting rules, for example health. The important thing is that families can take the witness that life is a long-distance race. If adults are generally empathic with what adolescents live, while the pandemic lasts we must be even more so. This is why I sincerely hope it helps you see that things will probably not go back to the way they were before COVID-19 for a while.
But also that if each generation is determined by what it is exposed to during adolescence, today’s generation (which has been exposed to the forced understanding that human beings need each other), will be the greatest generation in the world. history does have a network of reliable adults, available and willing to learn from them too, to generously gift them their experience, and thus be resilient role models. This is why I have created learning communities of neuro educators for the 21st century.
Only with the collaboration of responsible adults first with their lives, it will be possible to model new and good skills to understand each other and develop good coping strategies, with healthy habits, and each one working from the depths of himself to understand and relate to what is happening. passing, only in this way will he impel young people to make their lives flourish.
Dare to be your own mentor
What it is about is changing the glasses and starting to see in each one of ourselves to be truly empathetic with what adolescents live. Since the pandemic began, they have suffered a great impact, so I sincerely hope that things do not go back to the way they were before COVID-19, and I do not mean that the danger continues, logically. What I am saying is that if each generation is determined by what it is exposed to during adolescence, today’s adolescents – who have been subjected to the forced understanding of human beings, seeing how we need each other – will be with in all likelihood the greatest generation ever, so let’s give them a chance.
Strategies for Parents, Teachers, and Educators
Let them have a network of trusted adults, available and willing to learn from them, to generously gift them their experience, while being a resilient role model. To do this, they must understand that it is a stage of development that makes them incredibly vulnerable to what happens in the context, and that it impacts their emotional well-being. That is why if today we have to be highly responsible adults before this evolutionary stage of the human being, we think as parents but also as a species
These are the essential strategies that parents, teachers and educators have to apply from this moment:
1. Start with yourself. Show him with actions how getting through times of a pandemic is hard work for you. Practice strategies to deal with stress, nutrition, work at home, uncertainty … Make work plans, wear a mask and talk about the importance of ethical sense and common sense.
2. Show that you are capable of knowing yourself and regulating your emotions. They by age and by the changes that occur in their brain need practical strategies that they can see in you, and they also need to co-regulate with the people who are important in their lives, and with those who educate them. Because it is with your actions that you will be teaching him to deal with challenges, not with your sermons.
3. Let me borrow your effective strategies, so think long before you act, even if you think it is not so simple to act calm with feeling like a duck calmly gliding on the water before opening its beak. As you feel yourself slip away, focus on what he is asking of you with his behavior. .
4. Do not forget that he is a good person. Children’s mistakes sometimes displace parents to maintain a sustainable education and personal care, and only in what we can control: emotions, health, our own decisions, what we eat, what we think, and among those thoughts: things happen and get better.
5. Keep the joy, Only in this way will you be able to have more clarity to intentionally guarantee that despite the pandemic the young people you educate do not lack daily support systems. And because paraphrasing Benjamin Franklin: “Joy is the philosopher’s stone that turns everything into gold”.