Much has changed in recent academic years. But if something persists without a doubt (although it has changed its name) it is the well-known – and at the same time feared – Selectivity. Second year of Baccalaureate turns into a tough race from the first day of the course, who sets his goal on the college entrance exams. That is why the nerves surface and if someone plays an important role these days we are the parents.
“Must accompany the children especially emotionally, because the mental exhaustion of the entire course weighs: understanding their nervousness in the face of the pressure that this test supposes; repeat that we are always by their side, whatever happens; reinforce their security by transmitting optimistic messages that show our confidence in their work and in their effort, “he says. Antonio Milán Fitera, Director of the Education Degrees at CEU San Pablo University.
Of course, creating an environment of serenity in the family is not an easy task, however «we must try not to transmit our own nerves; that they do not notice our anguish or our fear in the face of what may happen; That they understand that whatever happens, everything can be solved; avoid, during their moments of rest, interrogations on subjects related to exams and encourage conversation, however, on other topics that rest them mentally; avoid family discussions especially in the days before and during the week of the tests “, advises the director of the Education Degrees of the CEU San Pablo University.
To get good marks in these exams, which last between two and four days, it is not only necessary to have studied enough, you also have to know how to perform at your best and be well prepared psychologically to face them. According to Antonio Milan Fitera, it is fantastic that parents can “teach them a trick to relax if they feel blank, sleep well the night before and if possible do some physical exercise the day before the start of the test.”
But how can we help them to have the necessary temperance at the time of the exams? According to the expert «it is good spend three minutes at the beginning of each exam to time the questions and respect those limits strictly so as not to run out of time; start with short questions that are best known; do not leave any question blank (and therefore avoid the pools when selecting the agenda); allow 3 minutes at the end of each exam to review the writing and spelling… ».
Rest, a necessity
Sleep and rest play a precious role in the success of the event. According to Antonio Milan Fitera, director of the Education Degrees at CEU San Pablo University, «if sleep occurs during the study, it is best to alternate short breaks with hours of intense work. And if they feel heavier and sleepy, it helps a lot to clear up at that time doing half an hour of physical exercise (going for a run, for example, listening to some music to avoid thinking about the test during that time). Have a coffee or any other caffeinated drink it must be something very exceptional and never before going to sleep to study at night, because it will make them fall asleep too late. And avoid in any case energy drinks (Monster and substitutes) that are unfortunately so fashionable among young people, but because they are not fully aware of the negative impact they have on learning and memory.
Goodbye to the “bad vibes”
It is very normal that at the end of the exams, our children have strange sensations, a mixture between the fear of failure or not reaching the desired grade and the uncertainty due to waiting for the publication of the grades. From our role as parents we must support them so that these ‘ghosts’ disappear. «If the exams on the first day are finished with bad feelings and there are still another two days of testing, the best thing is to ask them to make a pact with themselves: not allowing yourself to think about that failed exam until you finish the last one. All the time you spend thinking about what could have been done better will not change anything about the exam that has already been delivered. However, all those energies can be focused on reviewing the next exam, focusing on the present moment, on what I can do today and now, ”our expert argues.
But if you have finished the whole test and those bad feelings continue, it is best to ask yourself the following question: what is the worst thing that can happen to me? «The answer is obvious: ‘suspend’. And if that happens, the world does not fall or life ceases to have meaning. First: until the results come out, let’s not face that scenario. And second: if the suspense finally arrives, it is time to think that there is a second chance and that in no curriculum it appears that the EVAU was approved in September», Says the Director of the Education Degrees of the CEU San Pablo University. “That means growing tolerance for frustration. And it helps a lot for the development of the personality itself, because it makes you understand that you learn much more from failures than from successes. I know a few brilliant university students who did not pass the EVAU the first time, “he concludes. Let’s listen to the voice of experience.